You shouldn't marry for money or looks, because those things can be gone in a minute and then the reason to stay is gone. You shouldn't marry because you think you are protecting someone else, because that isn't fair to the person you are marrying. You shouldn't marry to get out of the situation you are in, because once you are away from that situation for a while you will realize that you can make it on your own. And, against popular counsel, I don't believe you should marry because a baby is on the way...unless you were already planning to marry. I don't think you should take one mistake and turn it into two.
You should marry for love, because when everything else is gone and there are challenges in your marriage, love is the glue that will hold it together. When Geno and I were married, the officiator told us to remember that moment and why we fell in love and to recall it when there were hard times in our marriage. I have never forgotten that advice. I have taken that advice several times in our marriage. Let's face it...with 4 young boys and an ex-husband from hell, we are going to have a lot of challenges. Sprinkle in there some issues with family, religion, and finances, and we are talking about a modern-day marriage ;o)
I guess someone reading this could take that as our marriage being horrible all the time, but it wasn't. There has not been one day since the day I met Geno that I didn't love him. There was a period of time when I thought that Geno would leave to marry someone younger who could give him the child he wanted. Even then, I never stopped loving him. I wasn't angry. I understood. I loved him so much I wanted him to be happy. It wasn't until this last year that I finally revealed that feeling to Geno. He was shocked. He said it wasn't just that he wanted a baby...he wanted a baby with me. Imagine what a difference that would have made had I talked to him about that years ago!
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