Good friends are an important part of my life! I believe that everyone should have good friends who are a part of their lives. I have two girlfriends in particular who I can call and they will be there for me. No judgement. No lectures. Just support. Now, this doesn't mean that they always agree with me. And they aren't shy at all about telling me. But they do it with love. They listen with understanding.
I have some friends who have been through struggles in their marriages. Some have made it through. Some have not. Some work full-time jobs outside the home. Some stay home with their children. Some love to scrapbook. Some do not. Some are very domestic. Some are not. We are not competitive, though. We just celebrate those differences and are happy to share them rather than try to out-do each other. We don't feel the need to do the things the other ones do if we don't want to. And it is all okay.
My friends and I do not all share the same religion, but we are all Christians. I think what makes us work is that we all have the same basic beliefs. These are not even religious-based beliefs, although most religions would agree with them. They are pretty much just rules of common decency.
We accept the fact that everyone makes mistakes-including each of us! Since we realize that we aren't perfect, we don't look down on others who make mistakes. Don't get me wrong...there is a huge difference between making a mistake and fixing it AND just having a personality that does things we consider to not be okay! There is a HUGE difference between the person who does something when she is in an emotionally vulnerable state and admits to the wrong and does what she needs to in order to fix it AND the person who does the same thing just because she wants to and then tries to justify it.
We believe that honesty is the best policy. Call a spade a spade! We are all willing to admit to our faults.
We are each very aware of those around us and try to make sure that we don't hurt others by our actions. Sadly, I think this is lost on the younger generation.
Maybe we all get along so well because we want to be good people, so we hang out with those we think are good people. Not perfect. But good.
I have lived in many places since I graduated high school and married 26 years ago. There are some friendships that did not stand the test of time. There are some friendships that ended badly due to disagreements or personality conflicts. From those friendships, I have learned to appreciate what a true friend is...and how to be a true friend.
I am grateful for those friends in my life! I have good friends who live in many different places. Some I talk to weekly. Some I talk to once a year. Some I see every trip back to Arkansas...and soon more often when we live in OKC. Some I have seen once in the last 25 years. But, they are there. And I am grateful for each one of them.
But mostly, I am grateful that my best friend is my husband...
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